What To Do When IVF Fails

What To Do When IVF  Fails.  Did your IVF/assisted conception fail or have you recently suffered a miscarriage? As a Fertility Doula I am particularly aware of how this experience impacts not only your physical body but also your  emotional self and  your ability to conceive.

Here’s how to recover.  

Take time to adapt to the loss  – Seek help from a professional or specialised counsellor to help you remain positive about the future.

Go to the follow up appointment with the hospital or clinic to help you understand why this may have happened  

Be kind to yourself –  a mind/body approach helps recovery.  Ensure you take time to rest.

Spend time with your partner (if you have one) or seek  loving support using mindfulness, complementary therapies to ease detoxification and recovery  

Prepare for your next pregnancy – using nutrition

When you have suffered a  loss there are a number of ways to restore balance.  We are all different  so here are 4 ways to re-balance and prepare to start again. 

When you are faced with the knowledge that your fertility cycle has not provided the positive result you were hoping for  it is difficult to remain up-beat about the future. Hormones will be raging and emotionally you are likely to be feeling vulnerable.

1. Take Time to Adapt:

I believe it is  important to allow yourself time to adapt and grieve. I often recommend my clients take “time out” before they organise the follow up appointment at the hospital or clinic.  You may not be ready immediately to discuss the reasoning for the failure and if this is the case please honour this.  I suggest you wait until your “bleed” has completed  or a whole cycle later if this suits you.  Only return to the hospital or clinic when you feel ready rather than steaming ahead.  This is a time to BREATHE and BE.  Eastern philosophy considers that we “call our children” and the soul of  our  child “calls its parents”.  Whilst the physical formation (conception/development of embryo to fetus takes place long before the actual “soul” connects during gestation) it is important to acknowledge the trauma to release the  un-conscious conceptual barriers such as fear  or emotional pain which may have  attached. Some of my clients like to release the  situation by performing a little “ritual” during this time.  Suggestions include

Buy a plant or small tree and  place it in your garden or home.  Nurture and nourish  the plant/tree as your nourish yourself.  With this form of  natural ritual  it helps you identify  the ebb and flow of life cycles.  When we  watch the stages of the cycle of life, from bud to blossom to disintegration, we can appreciate our own earthly process. Each stage we go through has its time of fulfillment and recession, as do all living things.

Buy a candle.  Each day, as you light the wick  send light and love to the experience.  When the candle has burnt down then it is time to leave the experience behind and draw a closure to your grief.   (I don’t suggest too large a candle please!)

Sage your home from the past by burning sage throughout each room.

Try an Abundance New Moon Ritual

2. Be kind to yourself:

Take a short break with your partner or close friends

organise   date nights;

work with fertility intentions,

take time to learn meditation or positive mantra ; use daily positive quotes  (my Creation Fertility toolkit provides all this) or  renew your well-being programme.  Here is a meditation you may like to listen to re-connecting yourself with your womb.

3.  Complementary Therapies. Cleanse the  excess hormones from the body and release the trauma from the mind and body using a combination of  complementary body therapies.

Manual Lymphatic Drainage Massage: This specialised form of massage Manual Lymphatic Drainage (MLD) is recommended  pre  fertility treatment or post failed fertility treatment  or following a miscarriage.  The lymphatic system plays a key role in the circulation of hormones and it seems logical that this gentle but powerful form of massage is used during this time. When the lymphatic system is congested hormonal  circulation causes disruption –  symptoms include mood swings, late or weak menses or simply to help regulate the menstrual cycle once more, reduce the risk of of uterine cysts,   eases oestrogen or progesterone  imbalances,   post pelvic immune reactions including  supporting the immune system generally reducing  hormonal gut health  symptoms, acne or spots, bloating &  constipation.    Another bonus is that it helps to release that fluid congestion that most ladies suffer post assisted conception/IVF/miscarriage and helps to  detoxify the whole body. For more about this amazing form of massage see my recent blog MLD massage and fertility

Far Infrared Therapy: an effective  adjunct therapy  this relaxing “cocoon sauna “ allows safe far infrared rays to penetrate the body and  encourages deeper  manual lymphatic drainage through massage.  Far infrared is often used these days – hot yoga uses far infrared to heat the studio but within my treatments I focus on cellular rejuvenation, detoxification and to re balance both the womb and endocrine system and combine this treatment with compresses, massage, castor oil packs or reflexology.

Sacral Womb Massage:  supports circulation and eases restrictions, giving movement to the womb, increases circulation and releases both physical and emotional trauma.  Physically the nerves that feed from the sacrum and lower back service the reproductive and digestive system, so treating this area increases circulation and releases tension, allowing for better nerve communication.

Reflexology a wonderful form of fertility treatment, actively treating the whole body whilst working through the feet. I have found it not only soothing for the mind but restores hormonal balance very effectively.

Energy Healing : calms the mind, rebalances the chakras and releases the past –  each treatment includes the use of the Creation Fertility Toolkit including the Creation Essence.

Whilst there may be some discussion at the beginning and end of each treatment a meditative silence is encouraged to enable restoration and release.

  And finally Number 4.  Nourish your fertility.

When a miscarriage has taken place or any form of assisted conception has failed there is a sense of urgency to begin the cycle again. I have found that the best results are achieved when you take time to prepare for another round. As a Registered Naturopath and Nutritional Therapist I believe that diet and lifestyle are essential to well being and encourage not only a healthy conception but also a healthy child.  Post failed assisted conception or a miscarriage it is important to reassess your physical health and work  from the inside out.


Wombdoula workshops –  sign up to join my workshop and let me show you how to support yourself from the inside out!


Nutritional TherapyThrough in house health screening and a consultation I can address  detoxification and encourage hormonal re balance.    Ideally I encourage a 3 month programme before BEFORE trying to conceive again because I like to feel confident that your cycle has regulated and you feel the best you can before embarking on the conception journey again. Sometimes this is not logistically appropriate (such as age) so nothing is set in stone.  My role is to help you make informed  decisions &  support you not dictate to you!  

Let me  help you  move forward and plan your next steps towards achieving your dream of parenthood .

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Call Justine Evans  ND  Hormone Alchemist and Fertility Expert on 07747 133170 now

Justine Evans ND  is the founder of Creation Fertility. In tune with the Seasons and Eastern Philosophy she offers a multi dimensional approach to fertility  health.  Call 07747 133170 to speak with her