I have been thinking about my clients and their fertility journey’s…….. some pregnancies comes easy, some just simply needs a pre-pregnancy cleanse, hormone re-balance and planning. For other conception proves harder and finally there are the heart wrencher’s.
I am not going to discuss the importance of sex around ovulation here but something else.
THE IMPORTANCE OF DATE NIGHTS!
SPENDING TIME TOGETHER, LAUGHING, HAVING FUN, BEING SILLY, APPRECIATING EACH OTHER, ROMANCING & LOVING; FEELING THAT MAGICAL PURE CONNECTION. REMINDING YOURSELVES OF HOW MUCH YOU ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY. BONDING AND MAINTAINING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
So, when you see your partner today consider this. How often do you take time out to be together? Make a commitment to spend time together……… and here’s how
You will need: envelopes, pen and paper (and probably some money!)
I am not sure about your working schedule of lifestyle so first consider how many times you can commit to a date. For some it’s alternative months, others weekly. Be realistic here – you don’t want to add more stress to your fertility journey.
This is about FUN, LAUGHTER, LOVE AND ENJOYING EACH OTHERS COMPANY. YOU KNOW – BONDING. Once you have established quantity now decide on your date nights. Let me explain how I first planned this –
It’s Christmas time and instead of giving my husband a stocking full of presents I placed 12 sealed envelopes with a date inside each of them. Each envelope had a month on it or a specific date. My husband opened an envelope at the beginning of each month for the year. He totally loved this …………….. (this is also a brilliant anniversary or birthday present or New Year ritual)
The following year we chose to choose 6 date nights each. I took responsibility for the even months and Clive the others so we avoided clashing! The dates we chose were not shared with each other when we planned them. We just sealed our organised events in envelopes. Vôila! On the day of the event the envelope was opened by the person who had not organised the event. It was brilliant and even more amazing was that we often chose similar events – reminding us how much we liked doing the same things!
The only things we shared were –
specific dates to be placed in the diary when we had organised something that required pre-payment (you know like a workshop, body treatment or concert/festival)
Agree on costings – are the dates to be FREE or do you have a budget?
When to do it! Anytime to want! Maybe as I have discussed above or TONIGHT or perhaps monthly, – at the New moon, at a new womb cycle or at the beginning of each month. Just take it in turns to organise something!
I am sure you have plenty of ideas but here are some anyway – a weekend walk in the country, learning to dance or dancing if you already know how, an art class, dinner out or cook at home, a cookery class, yoga or meditation (see below), the cinema, theatre, weekend away, foraging workshop ……….
You could do this alone or as a date night!!
Ensure you will not be disturbed for the next 10 minutes or so. Sit comfortably on a chair in a upright but relaxed position. Breathe in to a slow count of four and out to a slow count of four. Repeat 8 times. This will have a deeply calming effect on your heart.
Now I would like you to think of a place where you feel secure and safe – maybe it is a beach, a wood or a beautiful garden or relaxing room. Spend a moment to visualise yourself in this safe place. Feeling comfortable once more work with your breath – breathing in deeply to the count of four, taking time to notice the gap between the inhalation and the exhalation. Breathe out to the count of four. Repeat, inhaling to the count of four, exhaling – to the count of four.
Now place your hand on your heart and breathe deeply, keeping the mind clear of thoughts and focusing on your hear chakra/chest area. Notice how your hand on your heart rises as you inhale and gently falls as you exhale. Repeat this breathing technique until you feel ready to return your hand to your lap. Let your eyes open, returning to the present. Take a moment to stretch your whole body and take a drink before continuing with your day.
Do this daily – it will help to balance the endocrine system
Around ovulation visualise that fertilisation or implantation is taking place
Use this meditation for a moment of calm when you feel overwhelmed or anxious, disappointed, under pressure, off balance or just before an important hospital appointment! Buy the Creation Fertility Toolkit!